It has caused so much confusion in my life. I don’t think anybody asks to be hyper-independent. I’m not a therapist but I know that based on how one grows up, you either acquire this trait or you don’t.
Receiving suddenly becomes hard and your brain can’t allow you to accept help because the feeling is unfamiliar.
I believe that hyper-independence comes with being disappointed in life, especially with people-led disappointment. It becomes exhausting creating expectations for people in your life (0/10 would not recommend).
It takes so much out of me to accept help or even a present from someone. It completely contradicts my whole existence because my love language is acts of services yet I always end up giving because I want for it to be reciprocated. It makes no sense. I’m working on it.
Blooming With Flo 